Have You Heard of Funeral Selfies?

While I was driving to work yesterday I heard something rather interesting on the radio involving the funeral profession; the newest trend…..Funeral Selfies. Now some of you are

Funeral Selfies

Selfies at Funerals?

probably wondering what the word “selfie” implies. Well a “selfie” is when someone takes a picture of them self doing some daily activity, at an event, or some were important. It essentially is a picture of them self that they post through different social media sites such a Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and etc….

Now the controversy over these photos, in which I have linked below, is that teenagers are taking photos of themselves in an important situation of someone’s life. The funeral is suppose to be a time for family and friends to mourn the loss of their loved one. It helps with their healing and is a proper way to say good bye to someone they truly loved. The question is are kids taking ‘selfies’ at funerals for attention, are they using “selfies” to mourn, or is this whole pop culture world making this into to too much of a big deal? So please take a look at the link below and comment on what you think these photos imply to such an important life event such as a funeral.

If you haven’t already seen the pictures, here is a link that will show you some teens trying to mourn at a funeral by taking a selfie. 

http://selfiesatfunerals.tumblr.com/

A Checklist to Help Pre-Plan Your Funeral

Sometimes what gets us motivated to do something we try to avoid is seeing a list of details we need to take care of. In this case I am talking about Pre-Planning your Funeral

Funeral Planning with McKenzie Funeral Services

What are your wishes for your Funeral?

Arrangements; from a traditional full service funeral, a celebration of life, or to a simple cremation or burial.

To make Funeral Planning easier we have created the following checklist for you and your family to make these uneasy decisions clearer.

  • Choose the type of disposition you would like: Burial or Cremation.
  • Is a Cemetery Plot or Niche need to be reserved or in the question of your decision?
  • Where are all my estate papers for my executor located and do they have access to them? (wills, property papers, bank info, safety deposits, etc…)
  • Type of Casket or Urn I may want?
  • What Funeral Service/ Home would you like to take care of your arrangements? Are they Family Owned and Available when I need them?
  • What kind of Funeral, Celebration of life, or No Service would I like?
  • Location of the Funeral Service.
  • Ask yourself, does my family want a Funeral for me and discuss these options with them?
  • Select newspapers you wish to have an obituary published in.
  • Who would I like to speak at my Funeral?
  • Is there specific music that reflects you that you would like played?
  • How can I make my Funeral or Gathering personalized to my life and what I enjoyed and represents me?
  • Type of Flowers? Food?
  • Pre-Fund your Funeral Plan to relieve Peace of Mind and Financial Stress.

This list contains just some of the most important decisions that need to be made when pre-planning ones funeral. Just remember that a funeral service can be anything you want it to be, but no one can create the service you want unless you plan it ahead of time. Planning a Funeral is simple, just contact your funeral director and sit down with them to decide your wishes as they write them down.

Hope this has helped and stayed tuned for our weekly blog.

How to Write a Eulogy

Journalist Peggy Noonan said, “I love eulogies. They are the most moving kind of speech because they attempt to pluck meaning from the fog, and on short order, when the emotions are still ragged and raw and susceptible to leaps.”

While writing and delivering a eulogy is a noble gesture, that is worthy of thought and effort, it can be a challenge to write – and if you’re not comfortable in front of a crowd of people, it can be equally as challenging to deliver.

Giving a Eulogy Speech

Giving a Eulogy Speech

However, it is an opportunity to make a contribution to a memorial service, a contribution that your friends and family will remember for a long time. For that reason, if you are asked to write one, we suggest you consider doing so, if only for yourself.

That’s because writing a eulogy is a therapeutic tool to help you deal with your grief. The power of writing is undeniable and there is no better time than now for you to discover and take advantage of this.

What Should Your Eulogy Accomplish?

People often think one of two things about a eulogy:

• it should be an objective summation of the deceased’s life

• it should speak for everyone who is present at the memorial service.

Both of these assumptions are just plain unrealistic, don’t you think? How can you possibly be objective after losing a loved one; or sum up a person’s life in just a few minutes of time?

Let’s think of the eulogy as being much simpler. It should convey the feelings and experiences of the person giving the eulogy. The most touching and meaningful eulogies are written from a subjective point of view and from the heart. So don’t feel compelled to write your loved one’s life story. Instead, tell your story.

Clearly, the burden of the eulogy does not have to be yours completely. If you have the time, ask friends or relatives for their recollections and stories.

Honesty is very important. In most cases, there will be a lot of positive qualities to talk about. Once in a while, however, there is someone with more negative traits than positive qualities. If that is the case, remember, you don’t have to say everything if it would make you, or the guests uncomfortable. Just be honest as you can, and do your best to show the full humanity – both the good, and the not-so-good, characteristics of the deceased. After all, everyone there knew them, and is there because they want to acknowledge their relationship to the deceased. In other words, you have a “warm” audience, who will welcome your words.

Don’t Strive for Perfection – You’ll Make Yourself Go Nuts

Remember, you do not have to write a perfect eulogy. Whatever you write and deliver will be appreciated by the people at the funeral. If you are inclined to be a perfectionist, lower your expectations and just do what you can, considering the short time frame for preparation and your emotional state.

Writing A Eulogy needs to be from the heart

Writing A Eulogy needs to be from the heart

When You Walk up to the Podium

• Realize that people are not going to judge you. They will be very supportive. No matter what happens, it will be okay. If you break down in the middle of your speech, everyone will understand. Take a moment to get composed, and then continue. There is no reason to be embarrassed. Remember, giving a eulogy is a noble gesture that people will appreciate and admire.

• Make the eulogy easy to read. On a computer, print out the eulogy in a large type size. If you are using a typewriter, put extra carriage returns between the lines. If you are writing it by hand, print the final version in large letters and give the words room to breathe by writing on every second or third line.

• Before the service, get a small cup of water. Keep it with you during the service. When you go to the podium to deliver the eulogy, take the water with you in case you need it. Sipping water before you start and during the speech if needed, will help relax you.

• If you are nervous beforehand, breathe deeply. Remind yourself that everything will be fine. It will be. Look around at your relatives and friends and realize that they are with you 100 percent.

• Realize that it is acceptable to read the eulogy a loud. You don’t have to make eye contact with anyone.

If you need any more information on Eulogies, Funeral Planning, Estate Issues please contact your local Funeral Home, Lawyer or us at McKenzie Funeral Services.