Fall Seminar Series – McKenzie Funeral

Come join us for two helpful, free and educational seminars on Estate Planning this November.

McKenzie Funeral Services

We are happy to announce that we will be having some important and educationalseminars returning this November; our Executor & Estate Planning & Estate Taxes Seminars. Both seminars are complimentary and include beverages, snacks, and helpful planning information. RSVP by calling 604-926-5121.

Executor & Estate Seminar: 

West Vancouver United Church: Nov 7th, 2013 – 7:00 PM

If you have appointed an executor for your estate, or are named as an executor for someone else’s estate, you should attend this complimentary seminar. Topics will include pros and cons of joint ownership, what is probate, capital gains tax, cremation & burial pre-planning, estate settlement fees, and much more. Experienced Funeral & Estate Planning Director, Kevin Holte, will lead an educational yet entertaining seminar on the importance of having a well balanced plan in place for your family.

Estate Taxes Seminar: 

West Vancouver United Church: Nov 21st, 2013 – 7:00 PM

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A Checklist to Help Pre-Plan Your Funeral

Sometimes what gets us motivated to do something we try to avoid is seeing a list of details we need to take care of. In this case I am talking about Pre-Planning your Funeral

Funeral Planning with McKenzie Funeral Services

What are your wishes for your Funeral?

Arrangements; from a traditional full service funeral, a celebration of life, or to a simple cremation or burial.

To make Funeral Planning easier we have created the following checklist for you and your family to make these uneasy decisions clearer.

  • Choose the type of disposition you would like: Burial or Cremation.
  • Is a Cemetery Plot or Niche need to be reserved or in the question of your decision?
  • Where are all my estate papers for my executor located and do they have access to them? (wills, property papers, bank info, safety deposits, etc…)
  • Type of Casket or Urn I may want?
  • What Funeral Service/ Home would you like to take care of your arrangements? Are they Family Owned and Available when I need them?
  • What kind of Funeral, Celebration of life, or No Service would I like?
  • Location of the Funeral Service.
  • Ask yourself, does my family want a Funeral for me and discuss these options with them?
  • Select newspapers you wish to have an obituary published in.
  • Who would I like to speak at my Funeral?
  • Is there specific music that reflects you that you would like played?
  • How can I make my Funeral or Gathering personalized to my life and what I enjoyed and represents me?
  • Type of Flowers? Food?
  • Pre-Fund your Funeral Plan to relieve Peace of Mind and Financial Stress.

This list contains just some of the most important decisions that need to be made when pre-planning ones funeral. Just remember that a funeral service can be anything you want it to be, but no one can create the service you want unless you plan it ahead of time. Planning a Funeral is simple, just contact your funeral director and sit down with them to decide your wishes as they write them down.

Hope this has helped and stayed tuned for our weekly blog.

Online Funeral Pre-Planning

Doesn’t it feel like we do everything online nowadays? The reality is technology has taken an increasing influence on our life and decisions. Did you know that one life decision you can make can now be done online and held in private confidential at the Funeral Home? Pre-Planning your Funeral Arrangements online is a new service that we provide families that wish to use our services.

Funeral Online Pre-Planning

Online Pre-Planning Forms with Mckenzie Funeral Services

The online Funeral Planning form is completely confidential and gives you instructions on how to fill out your wishes. Our online services are not there to take away from the face to face meetings with the funeral director but to lay out your wishes to give the funeral director and your family a plan that you wish for yourself. Pre-Planning makes sense and is FREE. You can either meet with a funeral director and write down your wishes or complete out your wishes online in which they are held on file in private.

We all don’t want to think about our death and precisely never want to plan for it, but save the hassle and stress from your family and take the time to fill out your wishes with your funeral director and or through their website online pre-planning options.

To see our Pre-Planning Online Forms click here: http://www.mckenziefuneralservices.com/Pre-Arrange_Online_840724.html

 

Fall Seminar Series – McKenzie Funeral

We are happy to announce that we will be having some important and educational seminars returning this November; our Executor & Estate Planning & Estate Taxes Seminars. Both seminars are complimentary and include beverages, snacks, and helpful planning information. RSVP by calling 604-926-5121.

Executor & Estate Seminar: 

West Vancouver United Church: Nov 7th, 2013 – 7:00 PM

McKenzie Funeral Estate Executor Seminar

Estate Planning Seminar with McKenzie Funeral Services

If you have appointed an executor for your estate, or are named as an executor for someone else’s estate, you should attend this complimentary seminar. Topics will include pros and cons of joint ownership, what is probate, capital gains tax, cremation & burial pre-planning, estate settlement fees, and much more. Experienced Funeral & Estate Planning Director, Kevin Holte, will lead an educational yet entertaining seminar on the importance of having a well balanced plan in place for your family.

Estate Taxes Seminar: 

West Vancouver United Church: Nov 21st, 2013 – 7:00 PM

John Lakes - Estate & Taxes

North Vancouver Lawyer John Lakes will be speaking about important estate and tax issues

Tax time approaches faster than you think. Come join us as lawyer John Lakes and C.A. David Miller come discuss situations regarding personal taxes and estate planning. Such topics will include RRSP‘s, power of attorney‘s, income tax, personal wills, and much more. These topics can and will help you prepare yourself when planning and discussing yours or your loved ones estate.

If you are interested in attending any of these complimentary seminars please RSVP by calling 604-926-5121 or email info@mckenziefuneralservices.com. As well look for some of our future events in the Fall we plan to schedule.

 

Funeral Etiquette: Thanks for Being There.

Vancouver Funeral CondolenceMost of us are uncertain about what to do at a funeral. We see it all the time. In fact, I think Funeral Directors are the only people who are truly comfortable in this social setting. After all, we’ve had a lot of practice.

Offer Words of Condolence

Offering comforting words to the family is usually the easiest thing you can do. It’s also something the family will appreciate and remember. If you’re attending the service, offer your condolences in person or share a story or special memory about the deceased. If you can’t be there, send a card or share your message using the Book of Memories online memorial tribute page.

Sign the Register

When you sign the register at the funeral home, be sure to list your name and your relationship to the deceased. The register is something the family will have forever, and they will appreciate knowing who you are and how you knew their loved one in years to come.

Send a Gift to the Family

Appropriate gifts include flowers, a donation to a charity (oftentimes the family will have a preferred charity), food or a service. You can send your gift to the family’s home or the funeral home. Please ensure you include a signed card with your gift so the family knows who sent it. However, please take a few minutes to recognize that certain faiths

have proscriptions about what should be sent to the bereaved. If you’re unclear, check with a close family relative or friend.

Stay in Touch with the FamilyFuneral Flowers

Depending on your relationship with the family, you may choose to stay in touch in person, by telephone or online. The grieving process can be long and difficult, so don’t just walk out of their lives after the funeral service. You will serve the family well by letting them know you’re there for them during the days, weeks, and months follow the death of their loved one.

What to Wear

Historically, people wore black or only somber colors to a funeral. Today it’s acceptable to dress in a wider range of colors and clothing styles. In fact, we’ve seen services where the family asked everyone to dress in pink, or in colorful Hawaiian shirts and shorts. But, these unique events aside, a good rule of thumb is to dress as you would at church or a job interview.

Have other questions about funeral etiquette? Contact us. We’ve got the answers you’re looking for – after all, we’ve been to hundreds of funerals. So call – we’d love to help you get through what can (but doesn’t have to) be a challenging social situation.

McKenzie Funeral Services: 604-926-5121

How to Write a Eulogy

Journalist Peggy Noonan said, “I love eulogies. They are the most moving kind of speech because they attempt to pluck meaning from the fog, and on short order, when the emotions are still ragged and raw and susceptible to leaps.”

While writing and delivering a eulogy is a noble gesture, that is worthy of thought and effort, it can be a challenge to write – and if you’re not comfortable in front of a crowd of people, it can be equally as challenging to deliver.

Giving a Eulogy Speech

Giving a Eulogy Speech

However, it is an opportunity to make a contribution to a memorial service, a contribution that your friends and family will remember for a long time. For that reason, if you are asked to write one, we suggest you consider doing so, if only for yourself.

That’s because writing a eulogy is a therapeutic tool to help you deal with your grief. The power of writing is undeniable and there is no better time than now for you to discover and take advantage of this.

What Should Your Eulogy Accomplish?

People often think one of two things about a eulogy:

• it should be an objective summation of the deceased’s life

• it should speak for everyone who is present at the memorial service.

Both of these assumptions are just plain unrealistic, don’t you think? How can you possibly be objective after losing a loved one; or sum up a person’s life in just a few minutes of time?

Let’s think of the eulogy as being much simpler. It should convey the feelings and experiences of the person giving the eulogy. The most touching and meaningful eulogies are written from a subjective point of view and from the heart. So don’t feel compelled to write your loved one’s life story. Instead, tell your story.

Clearly, the burden of the eulogy does not have to be yours completely. If you have the time, ask friends or relatives for their recollections and stories.

Honesty is very important. In most cases, there will be a lot of positive qualities to talk about. Once in a while, however, there is someone with more negative traits than positive qualities. If that is the case, remember, you don’t have to say everything if it would make you, or the guests uncomfortable. Just be honest as you can, and do your best to show the full humanity – both the good, and the not-so-good, characteristics of the deceased. After all, everyone there knew them, and is there because they want to acknowledge their relationship to the deceased. In other words, you have a “warm” audience, who will welcome your words.

Don’t Strive for Perfection – You’ll Make Yourself Go Nuts

Remember, you do not have to write a perfect eulogy. Whatever you write and deliver will be appreciated by the people at the funeral. If you are inclined to be a perfectionist, lower your expectations and just do what you can, considering the short time frame for preparation and your emotional state.

Writing A Eulogy needs to be from the heart

Writing A Eulogy needs to be from the heart

When You Walk up to the Podium

• Realize that people are not going to judge you. They will be very supportive. No matter what happens, it will be okay. If you break down in the middle of your speech, everyone will understand. Take a moment to get composed, and then continue. There is no reason to be embarrassed. Remember, giving a eulogy is a noble gesture that people will appreciate and admire.

• Make the eulogy easy to read. On a computer, print out the eulogy in a large type size. If you are using a typewriter, put extra carriage returns between the lines. If you are writing it by hand, print the final version in large letters and give the words room to breathe by writing on every second or third line.

• Before the service, get a small cup of water. Keep it with you during the service. When you go to the podium to deliver the eulogy, take the water with you in case you need it. Sipping water before you start and during the speech if needed, will help relax you.

• If you are nervous beforehand, breathe deeply. Remind yourself that everything will be fine. It will be. Look around at your relatives and friends and realize that they are with you 100 percent.

• Realize that it is acceptable to read the eulogy a loud. You don’t have to make eye contact with anyone.

If you need any more information on Eulogies, Funeral Planning, Estate Issues please contact your local Funeral Home, Lawyer or us at McKenzie Funeral Services.

 

Funerals A La Carte!

Is there a rules and guidelines book on how a Funeral is suppose to be? …. Of course not! So why not make each funeral arrangement to what you, your family, and friends want to be to pay tribute to your lost loved one. I am talking about from the type of urn, casket, service folders, flowers, video tributes, but most importantly……. THE FOOD! Yes we all have heard of how Funeral Homes have personalized peoples funeral’s with mementos and stationary, but did you know many Funeral Homes and Services our excellent caterers.McKenzie Funeral Wine Display

Most recently we held a funeral for a gentlemen were the family wanted top quality food from sandwiches, desserts, and wine. Such as it is with wedding planners; funeral directors can arrange within their facilities to cater food and drinks to the way that represents the family’s lifestyle. The one thing that we like to say to families if they are choosing foods for a funeral is, would it be what he or she who has passed would have wanted and were from. The key to the Funeral is to reflect on your lost loved one to help family and friends grieve naturally.

From having your loved ones favorite cup of Joe, cookies, or cake to having a huge backyard BBQ at the Funeral Home. It can and should reflect on what your loved one loved the most and how it represents and made them who they were. I am a  huge lover of Italian Food. When I pass I want all my friends and family to pay tribute to me by eating a bowl of spaghetti followed by some Geltao and canolli’s. What food would you want to serve to your family and friends at your funeral?